…it is what it is
I find it interesting how sometimes we are like switches; it’s so easy to turn from being happy to being sad, from laughing to crying, from dancing to mourning all in a split second. Joy and sadness; the two emotions that can make or break your day and you as a person at a greater extent. It’s so easy for a person to say to you, “happiness is a choice, choose to be happy”, sometimes it is just not that easy.
You want to be happy, like genuinely you want to be happy. You start off your day well and think today is going to be a good day, I am happy today, nothing can bring me down, you read out all those sticky notes all over your room about being happy and you think you got this, you psyche yourself up whichever way you think is going to bring the best result. You tell yourself, “I am going to maintain, from the time I leave the house till I get back, I got this, I am happy”. Oh Boy! then you get to school or work and everything changes, someone just says something that throws you off balance and you are left thinking #$^&+ why now, when I had psyched myself up so well.
At that moment what do you do? Do you block the negative energy away like you did that annoying person who always sends you forwarded messages? Do you count to 10 backwards? Do you brush it off like you are swatting a fly away? Do you embrace the feeling and then move on?
What do you do when you go from being happy to sad faster than a police officer gives you a speeding ticket!
Wait…. Is that then the moment you choose to be happy or is that the moment you say to hell with this let me vent for a moment, cause I mean harbored emotions are a ticking time bomb and eventually…kaboom!!!!! It all comes crushing down…..or is that the moment you realize you are just human there are some things you can not do off of your own strength?
I have heard that the most jovial people actually suffer from depression and possibly possess many other dark traits but they cover it up so well cause they are busy making you laugh, laughing with you and yet when they go home, they are suffering their demise in silence. A study from the British Journal of Psychology found that comedians are more likely than others to admit to being easily distracted, antisocial and compulsive and have less interest in connecting with other humans. I wonder why? It is probably because you just can’t be happy all the time! It’s impossible! There is a time for everything under the sun, a time to be happy and a time to be sad. The most important thing is to know the time you are in and to embrace it, allow it to happen.
If you are sad feel sad but don’t allow the sadness to take over your life, if you are happy be happy allow that emotion to run its course. How can you possibly know happiness if you have never been sad, how can you know joy when you have never mourned? It is okay to be sad, to be unhappy, to cry, to want to be alone and at the same time, it’s okay to be happy, to dance for no reason and to just smile….
Why??
Because we are human, not robots, sometimes I feel like we are a compilation of emotions lol and at some point you have to let them out. Never allow yourself to feel bad for being happy when someone else is sad, nobody needs that kind of pressure, the sadness of the world is not yours to carry! be empathetic but do not drown yourself in someone else’s sorrow The honest truth is life moves on, you can’t expect the world to stop because you are sad or mourning, inasmuch as you might wish it to, it’s not going to happen, so you also need to embrace the fact that people will be happy when you are sad, they will laugh louder than ever when you are mourning, that’s just how it is. After all is said and done the world is a cycle, one day you are up, one day you are down, we have good and bad days, embrace the day and all it brings and learn to move on.
I have learnt happiness does not come from anyone or things, happiness comes from within and the only source of happiness is God, He is the ultimate source of happiness and joy especially for me. Even with God on my side, I have bad days but the happy days far outnumber the bad days J
